No one ever taught us, when we were younger, that we actually have a choice in the thoughts we will believe. Now we know, I believe! We are wiser now with our experiences and journey. We try to use that power.Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response, lie our growth & our freedom.
We start believing in ourselves well enough to be assured in who we are, what we are, what we want and from whom. We become dignified, forthright and honest but again we realize we are losing the ‘Magic’ word in life, somewhere. There, we must have emotional or physical control over others intimately to be worthy of respect & admiration. Ours’ worth is determined by how many people we do or do not get close with. We are only lovable when they are “in love” with us.
Oftentimes, people hook up with someone not because they genuinely love a person or want a person in their lives, but because they feel a void within themselves. This void has a voice which tells them they are not enough just as they are, unappreciated or un-noticed! Do not label or judge this under societal norms. They fail to realize the cost of sex is often shame & guilt. They just want to feel ‘loved’. They don’t think about who they’re hurting in the process or which souls will be affected by the choice of their decisions. Or, how the desires are going to affect another's mental, emotional & physical health! They just think about themselves. They start to groom & realizes the life to be led in clarity, most of the time balancing in better ways of all the relationships. They start to look at the whole equation wisely and with reason. They listen to the voice of void and feed it everything to nourish, groom & adequate, it wants by their own free-will, inspired by a sense of internal inadequacy. There might not be any goal or commitment issues in this, or putting the other person in the priority list but, just to live the present joyfully and taking care of their own needs and worth so that they are in a frame of mind to give their best.
(Shared by some study and experiences)
Article by
Tumpa Datta Gupta
Educationalist, Founder & Social Entrepreneur
Green Wings Educational Trust.
Mysore