Your mother is not a superhero. Stop glorifying motherhood; it hurts her just as much as it does you!
Your mother is not a divine being. Mothers are first and foremost human beings, and they, like all humans, have flaws. She has flaws and vulnerabilities of her own.
Our culture expects a woman to become a mother as soon as she marries and to make sacrifices for her child. If she refuses, she will be subjected to horrific criticism. When some women struggle with their new job as mothers, they are subjected to judgments, shame, and contempt for not being good enough.
Some women put pressure on themselves to be the "ideal" mother because they have been conditioned to do so for centuries. Mothers are willing to be and do everything while always being there. This is nearly difficult because no one is flawless!
The majority of women put their previous relationships on hold to focus entirely on their child.
When their child grows up and starts dating or getting married, mothers of boys, in particular, begin to feel anxious. They are afraid of losing control over their son. Then they start manipulating and using cheap techniques to reclaim their son. The son feels obligated to make his mother's happiness a priority because he has witnessed her suffering.
As a result, he feels guilty about not doing enough for their mother. He begins to do anything and everything that will make his mum happy. Finally, the woman begins to feel unimportant and unimportant.
Most of the time, they make their wives serve their mothers and fulfil every reasonable and unreasonable request in order to make her feel appreciated and happy. This causes the couple's trust to be broken. Compulsion and obligation only serves to degrade it more.
As the wife's health deteriorates, she devotes all of her efforts to her children and finds happiness in them. And the kids are forced to witness her terrible plight. They feel obligated to keep her happy as they get older.
And there is no end in sight to this cycle, which continues from generation to generation.
Your children are part of a family that prioritizes everyone's needs. Children require more support and supervision than adults, but this does not mean that your children's wishes are the most important.
Be a lady with her own thoughts, opinions, and needs. A mother who has other responsibilities and relationships. Most essential, be someone who is happy and fulfilled within herself.
Motherhood would be fantastic if women were actively encouraged to be more than mothers! It would be fantastic if they began to invest in themselves, to love and care for herself. Most importantly, she must respect herself.
You're a mother, but you're so much more than that.
Illustrated By
Dr. Saraswathy N
Founder, Sachu's Kitchen
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